As an NLP Coach, I meet lots of people from different walks of life. I have seen people who have successful careers but life is not balanced. I have seen people who have a balanced life but not a successful career. I have seen and worked closely with people who have a balanced life and are equally successful in their career. Things which I have realised with these people. They follow certain principles. These principles lay a strong foundation of life. Anyone can imbibe them in their life. I would share with you all the Golden Principles for Balance and Success.
1) One must follow the passion.
Passion is something which a person can pursue for hours and hours together. When you do what you like, you get more involved in that. This creates enthusiasm. Builds a strong self-esteem. Passion allows experimenting with the work. Think innovative. There is an example of a person who had followed his passion. His name is PC Mustafa. the owner-founder of the company ‘iD’. He started the company with one motive to serve people with homemade breakfast every day. His passion has become his success story. He still follows his passion and keeps innovating product. Menduvada is a beautiful example of his approach to creating a difference. To serve perfect homemade vada with a hole in the centre. We have the legendary example of Sachin Tendulkar and Virat Kohli for following the passion.
People who follow their passion have Focused. They enjoy every moment of the work. An example from the everyday walk of life. Our garba (traditional folk) instructor Saatwik, is crazy for dancing. He dances for hours together with the same energy and enthusiasm. While we are tired after an hour. He maintains his state of mind of being cool, calm and happy all time. If you do what you love. Our subconscious associate’s pleasure state with it. Once the message is developed at the SUBCONSCIOUS level person’s growth is exponential.
While following your passion, one should not compare to others. Rather the attitude should be comparing previous work with your present work. Every day we improve if the comparison is with own self. When we compare our selves with others. We insult our own self. This creates a negative self-esteem at our mental screen. Every individual is different and unique. How were we yesterday? what values have we added today? Are we improving every day? Our attitude should be like A bird Seagul in Australia. It tries to fly higher than its previous flight of yesterday.
People who are successful and have a balanced life always count their blessings. Life is full of memories. Important is what do we recall. Are we recalling happy or sad memory? Recollecting all happy memories makes our reticular activating system (RAS) to focus on all POSITIVE THOUGHTS, aspects and energy of our life. I was listening to a story. There were two successful businessmen. They had huge stores and money was in abundance. Unfortunately, an earthquake destroyed all properties, assets and loved ones just in few minutes. What they were left with nothing.
Among them, one businessman said, “I am destroyed”. The other said, ” Thank you, God, for keeping me alive and providing me one more chance to stand more stronger than yesterday.” The other businessman was able to rebuild the same name and fame in a few years. What have we learnt from the story? The person who focuses on positive aspects of life bounce back. Positive thoughts strengthen confidence. We believe in our self. Whether someone believes it or not. If you believe in yourself nothing is impossible.
An example to it, Bollywood legend Amitabh Bachchan. He bounced back after a huge financial bankruptcy.
At the age of retirement, Amitabh Bachchan is still the king of millions of hearts all over the world. He enjoys his work as a vacation. He follows his instinct. He was the first superstar to host a program In television KBC. His experimentation with movies like paa, pink, piku and so on.
3) Always surround yourself with positive people
We identify with the people you stay with. It is said that “we are the average of five people with whom we spent most of the time”. As per LAW OF ATTRACTION, we attract those things on which we focus on. If people around are complaining, blaming, gossip, do procrastination. You will also develop the same attitude because of your company. if the people with whom you spent time with are Innovators, creators, problem solvers. You will be the same as your company.
The people we surround ourselves with either raise or lower own standards. They either help us to become the best version of ourselves or encourage us to become lesser versions of ourselves. we become like our friends. No man becomes great on his own. No woman becomes great on her own. The people around them make them great. We all need people in lives who raise our standards, remind us of our essential purpose and challenge us to become the best version of ourselves.
4) Balances all areas of life
People who balance their health, finance, relationship, work, spiritual and social spheres have a successful and balanced life. Every area is important and has its own value. If you only work day and night without paying attention to your health and relationship. You will be financially stable but will be alone and unhealthy. If any area is an imbalance. It affects the other areas also. Time management and priority setting are the also important for sticking the balance all spheres of life.
5) Handling the Inner objection
Many of us have experience there is an inner voice. This inner voice at times creates objection. The objection in achieving the dreams. Most of us don’t pay attention to it. As a result, we alter our dreams. This inner voice is the critic present in every individual. if you listen to your critical inner voice and handle its objection. you will realise that it was only stating the point which was missing to achieve your dream. Few people who handle it are able to reach the pinnacle.
In nutshell, to have a balanced and successful life. You need to follow your passion. Be grateful for everything good or bad in life. Make sure you are surrounded by the positive and encouraging people. This will the best version of you. Balance different sphere of life and be happy. Listen and handle the inner objection to make sky as your limit.